When Things Go Wrong, Play the “Guess the Reason” Game
A simple strategy for an instant boost when life isn't going your way.
The artcile i just read talked about a girl named sarah who tried to make a point about how you have answers to everything you just needto stop looking for them.
Wonder
why things happen the way they did? And you feel like there should be definition
to every single one of your questions? I think the title on this passage says
it all. Simply by her saying “play the guess the reason” game. So she’s trying to tell us that there is
a reason to everything you just have to play the game and figure it out
yourself. Don’t you think that if everything didn’t happened for reason this
world would be so messed up? Are there reasons to everything? Like why that person broke your heart, or why I
didn’t get that job. Because there is always something better ahead and that
person that left you were just a lesson learned and were only in your life for
a season, and why you didn’t get a job? Well maybe because you’re not ready for
it and you need something better your way. As you play the guessing game you
start to realize that you were stupid for questioning your thoughts about a
certain thing and you start to reassure yourself that everything is going to be
okay at the end, and if it’s not okay then it’s not the end! When things go
wrong, don’t worry, it will get better soon and that’s exactly what the author
in this article is trying to tell us, for you not to try to look for answers
they will come to you with time. I think Susan here has a lot to tell you by
just quoting what she asks as well. She has had experienced that lead her to
believe not everything happens for a reason!
“When things go wrong , do you usually discover in the end that something good that came out of it? Like, why would this have happened to me today? What’s the reason? I can’t see it right now.”
"Have you had one of those days when everything seems to go wrong, only to find that the events of the day contained a surprising gift, or had saved you from some other worse fate in the end? I'd love to hear your stories and thoughts in the comments section."
“What if the reason that this happened to both of you, is to prevent something more disastrous happening in the future?” She pointed at me. “You lost some money and had a stressful morning, but I bet you won’t make this mistake ever again, from now on you’ll read your ticket carefully. Maybe that will prevent you from missing a much more critical flight out of New York in the future.”
My “bad” day, in the larger scheme of things, really wasn’t a very big deal, but it was a useful exercise in brainstorming a positive twist in a group. This kind of conversation, and the socially supportive nature of the game, would be even more reassuring and valuable if one was going through something truly difficult or deeply upsetting.
Nicely put Dr. Lara, this seemed like it came from a professional therapist. I could see down the road the personal views and advice for men and women relationship problems composed by you. Your topic is something that everyone comes across in life, so it makes sense to educate and rehearse the lines of life so that when the right one comes along you’ll know how to handle them.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on everything, there are many people that cross our paths to mold and shape us to the strong, ambitious human beings that we are. I had more bad connections than good in my adolescent years, bad influences and behaviors. I placed myself in situations and created a circle of relationships that taught me how to survive, fend for myself, and be the aggressor and not the victim. Bad decisions landed me in places that only one could dream of (nightmares). I became hard and unapproachable, no smile, no reason to smile. Bitterness and anger ruled my world for a moment.
But GOD…..
I found myself at my ropes end. Nowhere to run and nowhere to go, I was the lowest I had ever experienced. Until I reached for help and others were willing to pull me out and dust me off. I was so used to having to pick others up that I exhausted myself and soon ran dry. Today I surround myself with successors, dreamers, providers and those that have high hopes and expectations in life. I take my connections as if there is a reason why they are in my life, whether its sitting right next to me of across the way, we all have an impact on each other in one way or another.
I thought this was a very interesting article because I heard before that the people you meet in your life can be a lesson or to experience new things. I had some people that came into my life that taught me not to hold on to things forever and things seriously. When reading this I think it’s so true because some people change and become better or they become weaker. I have close friends and friends that left out of my life but from learning from that I knew not to keep people close to you. I think that you can also lose family members too because in life no one is perfect. I have lost people I loved or people I fell in love with but that made me a better person today and of course I learned from it. I think that everyone can relate to this because we all had this experience from friends, family, lovers, or other things that helped us, taught us a lesson or learned from it. In the article they mention that people you meet can help you succeed or make you fail because the people you are with can change your mind about things. I like how the article tells you about the difference or the way it can change you. The question I had was do you think this never happened to anyone or never changed them?
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