http://boss.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/10/13/re-thinking-what-your-mother-told-you/

October 13, 2010, 7:00 am

Rethinking What Your Mother Told You

By JAY GOLTZ

My beginning years of being a teenager I never listened to what my mother or father had to tell me because I thought they had no clue what was going on with my life. Truth is they have been though mostly all the things I have been though and all they wanted to do was help me out so that I wouldn’t make the same mistakes twice! I should have listened to them when I had the chance but instead I went and did the same mistakes again. But isn't that how you learn? Making the same mistakes again? Well not me, I kept doing them I kept running back to the same person that kept hurting me and didn’t care about me. I think the main reason I did that because we as humans are willing to do that much for a person because we think they would do the same for us, but no some people a closed up in the head and have no feelings but for themselves, they are selfish about everything and think they don’t hurt people. So in the end I did end up learning, I let go of that person and learned to be a stronger person. Here is where it comes back to everything happens for a reason, if I didn’t go through hell with this person would i have learn to value myself as an individual or learn to only love those who love me in return? No! So it’s a good thing i went through all that and I am thankful for it! I think that the author is trying to help us learn how to cope with things in life and figure out why you did what you did when you did, and what th eoutcome of it was :)

 Here are something that the author of this article wants you to learn and read of usual sayings that people say in their daily routine!

"1. Don’t judge people. Hmm. isn’t that what management is? You need to judge whether people are doing good jobs, whether they represent your company’s values, whether they have the potential to take more responsibility."

2." People are innocent until proven guilty. Actually, when it comes to interviewing people and checking references, it’s probably better to assume guilty until proven innocent. People lie, exaggerate, and are delusional about their own abilities and histories. If you are skeptical and careful, you will have a much better track record of hiring good people. "

3." The customer is always right. A nice thought, but it makes for a terrible training mantra. It can frustrate employees who have to deal with customers who are not always right. The reality is that  customers are usually right if you look at the situation from their perspective. And even when they are not right, it probably isn’t worth fighting with them. We can afford to lose some money on a sale more easily than we can afford to lose a customer".

4. "Treat others the way you want them to treat you (the golden rule). Not everyone thinks like you, operates like you or behaves as responsibly as you do. If someone is coming in late regularly, doing a sloppy job, or alienating customers, you might want to do something about it. If you follow the golden rule, you won’t — because you would not want anyone to call you on it. The golden rule is a nice sentiment in life, but it would work in business only if everyone — suppliers, employees and customers — also operated by it. They don’t."

5." All you have to do is to try your best. Not really. Customers deserve what they pay for, and they really don’t care how hard you are trying. If your house burns down, you’re probably not going to be consoled that your insurance agent tried hard — but forgot to renew the policy."

6. "Honesty is the best policy. Usually. But there are times when keeping your mouth shut is the best policy. Suppose you interview someone for a sales job and you think he communicates poorly. You send him letters thanking him for his time but telling him you have selected another candidate. He calls you and wants to know why you didn’t hire him. If you go with the honesty policy, you will say that you didn’t think he sounded very smart. How smart does that make you? Or suppose someone calls you for a reference for a former employee and you decide to tell the truth. Silence can be golden. A simple “I really can’t comment” may save you from a lawsuit."

7. "The meek will inherit the earth. Maybe this one is true. But it is also true that the meek are going to have a tough time in business. The entrepreneur needs to take charge, make things happen and stand up to suppliers and employees who are not delivering and customers who are not paying their bills. (But that doesn’t mean you have to be a jerk."

8. "Everything happens for a reason. This one is frequently true, but not in the cosmic, “it’s all about fate” way it is intended. Good and bad things do happen for a reason. The reason a company goes broke may be that it overexpanded. The reason that someone got hurt may be that he or she wasn’t following the safety procedures or was never trained in the safety procedures. The reason you lost the customer may be that you didn’t deliver what you promised. In any case, it may not have been just fate."